In parts 1 through 3 I talked about becoming aware of your inner critic and other thoughts that block your success. Accept the challenge of getting your inner voice to work with you. Accept the awesome power you have to take cotrol and flip that script. You convert your inner critic into your biggest cheerleader. As you build postive self talk and retrain your brain, you will see feel much better about life. You will notice a positive change in your overall energy level. This higher energy thinking will keep you moving forward as you contune working through your SMART plan. As you move forward appreciate every step both good and bad.
Be prepared for changes to the plan and maybe some setbacks along the way. The path to your goal is never a staight line without challenges. It's usually more like the picture of the treasure map. There will see twists and turns as you make course corrections. Always rely on the new thoughts from your inner voice to build your energy and confidence. Adjust the plan when necessary. That's why we take baby steps. Keep it doable and don't get overwhelmed. Learn to appreciate the victories and the learning experiences. Every step in your quest for a better future has value. Keep working on the SMART plan. Step by Step. If you find something isn't working Pivot. If you have a good friend who does not judge, use them as your back up cheerleader. Sometimes your inner voice will fall back to using the old dialogue. Stay on top of the script. Don't get Discourage; Don't Quit; Just Pivot If you feel you need some help.... I am running a Special Summer Pricing Event until August 1st. The path to your best self and achieving your goal isn't an easy one. You may find it helpful to hire a coach to work with you. As a coach, I am there to help my clients figure out any blocks they have. I teach them to work through blocks, give them tools to keep their mindset and energy positive and encourgage and celebrate with them as they move forward. The most important thing I do as a coach is to believe in my client until they have the power to believe in themselves. If you try this process and think a coach would be helpful, please contact me. We can get on a phone call or zoom and figure out what is going on and what is best for you. I promise anytime I do a consult, it is not a sales call. There is no pressure. It's simply a call to see if I can help. Call or message me NOW for my Special Summer Pricing Event until August 1st. 610-327-4626 or schedule through my website I would love to help!
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If you read parts 1 & 2, I hope you have taken time to think about the old narrative of your inner voice/gremlin and maybe dug a little deeper to learn why your gremlin would keep running this script that keeps you stuck. Learning why and healing is an important step. I know everyone is anxious to move forward and this extra step doesn't seem necessary. Typically if the wound isn't healed properly or the lesson is not learned it will pop up again in the future. So if you haven't worked through the gremlin message, just be aware that you may have to revisit it again in the future.
Now this is where the process gets to be fun and exciting. It's time to make a change! It's time to is make a plan. Put it in writing. I like to use the SMART method which breaks things down into tiny baby steps. This keeps you from feeling overwhelmed which will definitely lower your energy level. What is your very first step? Write it down. Set a deadline. Get it done. What is your next step? Repeat the cycle until you have achieved the goal. Get excited about your future as you take each baby step toward achieve your goal. Throughout the process keep feeding your brain positive thoughts. You need to sustain a higher energy level so that you will keep moving forward. A higher energy level is important because it determines how you feel about life and your ability to achieve your goal. Low energy will keep you feeling defeated and stuck. High energy keeps you excited and moving forward. Just think about staying in your current situation and being defeated. How does that make you feel? Now think about creating your best life and achieving your goal. How does that make you feel? Feel the difference? See how your thoughts really do change your energy level. As I wrote in the previous post, affirmations work really well to improve your mindset and raise your energy level. Keeping your goal and your gremlins in mind, decide what your brain needs to believe in order to move forward. What do you need to overcome to achieve your goal? I needed to believe that I deserved to be financially secure and that I had the ability to make that happen. In order to overcome my constant student mentality and my not good enough yet thoughts, I needed to believe that I had all the training I needed to help people change their lives. I needed to believe that it was OK to fail as long as I examined what I perceived as a failure, learned from it and let it go. Create your affirmations and use them to change your energy. Have a chat with your gremlin. Get him or her on board with the new thoughts. Your inner critic/gremlin can become your cheerleader. Nurture a positive energy flow by feeding your bran with new positive thoughts. To keep yourself motivated as you move forward, I highly recommend this exercise. I learned this one from Dean Graziosi. Find your WHY! Ask yourself Why achieving this goal is important to you. Take that answer and ask why that is important? Keep asking why after each answer until you go 7 levels deep. This is a link to a YouTube video where Dean explains the process. He also touches on the inner critic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hadv15QQDXs&list=RDLVSv882g7UVQE&start_radio=1&rv=Sv882g7UVQE Change your energy level and Find your Why. Your true Why will make you feel good and keep you motivated as you work to achieve your goal. Use your affirmations to nurture a positive mindset and higher energy level. Stay committed to the plan. Keep moving forward! This is part 2 of the Flip the Script Series. Part 1 was about becoming Aware of the thoughts or your inner voice that stops you from reaching your goals or changing your life. This process of discovery and change can be used in so many life situtations. Reaching goals, changing bad habits, weight loss, new career or staring a business just to name a few. Anytime you find yourself repeating a pattern or just being stuck. Become aware of the thought/gremilin that has you stuck and then Accept the Challenge to make a change.
If you have read part 1 and done some discovery work, you are Aware of the thoughts and gremlins that stop you. You have become aware of the feelings that came up during your discovery process. You may have accepted the fact that you are done feeling those feelings and thinking those thoughts. It's good to allow some time for self love and healing after the discovery/awareness process. So much can come up bringing all kinds of emotional baggage to the surface. Forgive yourself and others, love, let go of the past and any negative energy that has you stuck. Remember that the past is just that. You can't change it. You only have the power to change the present and your future. Accept how powerful it is to be able to make a change in your life. As Albert Einsten said, "The definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." Accept the Challenge to Change. What would need to change in order for you to get different results, reach that goal or change your situation? Think about the end result you are hoping to achieve. You probably already know what steps you need to take to make it happen. Through the discovery process you may have identified the thought/gremlin that is stopping you from taking action. So before you can implement your action plan, you will need to Flip the Script. Reprogram your inner voice so that it is encouraging you as you move forward. The new script can be positive affirmations that will train your brain/gremlin/inner voice to accept this new thought as the truth. The brain/gremlin/inner voice will then believe that it's new mission is to help you reach your goal because that is what you told it you wanted. Think about the new self talk/encouragment you will need to be successful. What are your affirmations/new thoughts for the gremlin? How do you feel when you hear these new thoughts? Some of the affirmations I used to retrain my brain/gremilin/inner voice regarding my lack mentality, fear of failure and not being too enough were: There is plenty of money to pay the bills, save for the future and live comfortably. You are financially secure. You have all the training and life skills you need to suceed. You are good at your work. You are committed to fulfilling your mission and reaching your goals. You can not fail. When I visulaize my life with these thoughts I feel amazing and excited about the future. The new mindset makes me feel so much better than the old gremlin talk. The retraining part will take a little time and a lot of patience but you can do it! I am doing a 4 part series of post about that inner voice that crushes your dreams, keeps you from trying new things, meeting new people and perhaps keep you stuck thinking you just aren't good enough, smart enough or derseving of a great life.
The first step in the Flip the Script Process is to become Aware of your Gremlin/Inner Critic. In order to recognize a gremlin you have to examine your current situation or goal. How are you doing with goals? Are you are finding it difficult to acheive them? What challenges are you facing? Are you are just feeling stuck in Life? WHY? Sit with these type of questions....journal....meditate. Do what works for you but really work to figure out what is blocking your progress. What is the main thought that stops you in your tracks. Have you faced this challenge or been stuck before? What were your thoughts about that? Is there a pattern? Maybe it's a deep rooted thought that has returned for an encore. It is always helpful to look in your past to find where this block comes from. Keep digging and questioning until you find out what is really stopping you and why. What is the major thought or thoughts that interfere with your progress. Just as an example, I always seemed to have issues with money. Things could be great for a long period of time. Then all of a sudden the money flow stopped which left me to figure out what to do next. I always blamed these dry periods on the cyclical nature of real estate. Now this is true to a point, however, I should have prepared for the slow down since real estate has always been cyclical. When work and money flow slowed down I always felt scared and paralyzed. I would wrestle with my options. I didn't know if I should get a temporary job; change careers so this didn't happen again; maybe just get a part-time job; or just do the best I can until the market returned to normal. I usually opted for the last one. I just spun until work started flowing again. I hated the sinking feeling I got when I thought about my work and money situtation. In my discovery work around this situation I found 3 areas where my inner critic was blocking my success and keeping me stuck. The biggest was my Lack Mentality. This goes way back to my childhood. Money was tight in our family. I don't think this was something my parents talked about but I just knew not to ask for things because we didn't have a lot of money. I also had a Lack Mentality when it came to my knowledge, skills and abilities. Now this is a problem when you are faced with getting a job, especially when you think about changing your career. I would look for a job but I didn't feel qualified for any of the jobs that paid enough and that I were interesting. There was a bit of the "I'm not good enough" in this line of thought. My third revelation was my Fear of Failure. What if I made a career change or started a new business and found out I wasn't good at it. I didn't want to dissapoint my new boss, my clients or myself. So I was faced with a lot of negative self talk around money and my ability to find other work. My lack mentality around money came from my interpretation of our family's finances when I was growing up. My limiting belief that I wasn't qualified or good enough stems from the rough time I had in 5th grade transitioning to a new school. I felt like I didn't know as much as the kids in my new class. I felt I wasn't qualified to be there. I didn't fail the 5th grade but my grades were much lower than they had been prior to the new school. I failed my own expectations of where my grades should have been. Based on this one year of school, I lost my confidence and didn't believe in myself. The false belief that my knowledge, skills and abilities were lacking, led to the assumtion that I wasn't good enough and I would fail at a new career path. Because of my fears, my gremlin stepped in to protect me from disappointment. He was just doing what I told him to do. I didn't want to feel fear, rejection and dissappointment. So he made sure I didn't! He was always there to talk me out of stepping outside of my comfort zone and making a career change. So... enough about me! After you have your inner critic message nailed down and maybe even discover WHY you have this thought, it's time to attach feelings to these thoughts. When you think about the thought that stops you in your tracks, how does that make you feel? Is it a good feeling? The next question to ask your self is "When I think this thought and feel this feeling, what action do I take?" Do you proceed with the plan? Does your situation improve? Do you continue to listen to your gremlin? How is that helping? Maybe these questions don't bring the best thoughts and feelings but they are what they are. It's a necessary step in the process. Feel the feelings. Decide that you are ready to let go of them and that change is possible. You can make great things happen. The next post will be about Accepting your situation; Accepting the power you have to make changes and Accepting the challenge in moving forward. You got this! |
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